Conditionally assign ref in react - reactjs

Question

I'm working on something in react and have encountered a challenge I'm not being able to solve myself. I've searched here and others places and I found topics with similar titles but didn't have anything to do with the problem I'm having, so here we go:
So I have an array which will be mapped into React, components, normally like so:
export default ParentComponent = () => {
//bunch of stuff here and there is an array called arr
return (<>
{arr.map((item, id) => {<ChildComponent props={item} key={id}>})}
</>)
}
but the thing is, there's a state in the parent element which stores the id of one of the ChildComponents that is currently selected (I'm doing this by setting up a context and setting this state inside the ChildComponent), and then the problem is that I have to reference a node inside of the ChildComponent which is currently selected. I can forward a ref no problem, but I also want to assign the ref only on the currently selected ChildComponent, I would like to do this:
export default ParentComponent = () => {
//bunch of stuff here and there is an array called arr and there's a state which holds the id of a selected ChildComponent called selectedObjectId
const selectedRef = createRef();
return (<>
<someContextProvider>
{arr.map((item, id) => {
<ChildComponent
props={item}
key={id}
ref={selectedObjectId == id ? selectedRef : null}
>
})}
<someContextProvider />
</>)
}
But I have tried and we can't do that. So how can dynamically assign the ref to only one particular element of an array if a certain condition is true?

Answer 1

You can use the props spread operator {...props} to pass a conditional ref by building the props object first. E.g.
export default ParentComponent = () => {
const selectedRef = useRef(null);
return (
<SomeContextProvider>
{arr.map((item, id) => {
const itemProps = selectedObjectId == id ? { ref: selectedRef } : {};
return (
<ChildComponent
props={item}
key={id}
{...itemProps}
/>
);
})}
<SomeContextProvider />
)
}

Answer 2

You cannot dynamically assign ref, but you can store all of them, and access by id
export default ParentComponent = () => {
//bunch of stuff here and there is an array called arr and theres a state wich holds the id of a selected ChildComponent called selectedObjectId
let refs = {}
// example of accessing current selected ref
const handleClick = () => {
if (refs[selectedObjectId])
refs[selectedObjectId].current.click() // call some method
}
return (<>
<someContextProvider>
{arr.map((item, id) => {
<ChildComponent
props={item}
key={id}
ref={refs[id]}
>
})}
<someContextProvider />
</>)
}

Answer 3

Solution
Like Drew commented in Medets answer, the only solution is to create an array of refs and access the desired one by simply matching the index of the ChildElement with the index of the ref array, as we can see here. There's no way we found to actually move a ref between objects, but performance cost for doing this should not be relevant.