Access to not loaded nodes of DataTable with DeferRender option - datatables-1.10

Question

My problem is that I have a datatable containing thousands of datas and I faced performance problems on Internet Explorer 11 (I don't want <11 and I'm not facing any issues on Firefox and Chrome). To solve the performance problem I added deferRender: true to my dataTable which was really successful but then I faced another problem I don't have solved yet.
The new problem is that each row of my table has a checkbox and the datatable header has a checkbox which check/uncheck all row checkboxes when there is a click on it.
When the click happen I retrieve all nodes in my table by doing var allNodes = myTable.rows().nodes() and change the checked property of each row checkbox.
Without the deferRender option I was retrieving all nodes but since I had this option which is doing a lazy loading I am only retrieving nodes already loaded (first page and pages loaded).
So my question is :
Is there a way to keep the IE performance patch with the lazy loading deferRender option and still have access to all nodes (maybe through a function I haven't find yet) or is there another way to improve performance on IE ?
Thank you for your help.
P.S. : If needed I add my datatable initialization code here :
$('#myTable').DataTable({
ajax: {
url: myUrl,
contentType: 'application/json',
type: 'POST',
data: function (d) {
return JSON.stringify(dataToSend);
}
},
columns: [
{
data: 'Identifier',
type: 'html',
sortable: false,
render: function (data, type, row) {
return '<input type="checkbox" name="checkboxRow" value="' + $('<div/>').text(data).html() + '">';
}
},
{
data: 'Mnemo',
render: function (data, type, row) {
return '<a class="hand-cursor">' + $('<div/>').text(data).html() + '</a>';
}
},
{ data: 'FamGam.Family' },
{ data: 'FamGam.Gamme' },
{
fnCreatedCell: function (nTd, oData, iRow, iCol) {
if (oData === 'En service') {
$(nTd).addClass('cell-text-green');
} else if (oData === 'En cours de démontage') {
$(nTd).addClass('cell-text-orange');
}
},
data: 'dataState.Libelle'
},
{ data: 'IdentifierUI' },
{ data: 'TechnicalRoom.InterventionUnitySenderSite' },
{ data: 'IdentifierTechnicalRoom' },
{
type: 'html',
sortable: false,
defaultContent: '<img class="imgBtn secondBtn" ' +
'src="' + urlImages + '/edit.png" ' +
'alt="Editer" title="Editer" />'
}
],
deferRender: true,
destroy: true,
searching: true,
retrieve: true,
order: [1, 'asc']
});